So many times on social media when something tragic happens we always see people say, “Hold the ones you love extra tight tonight.” It always seems that in the face of tragedy we remember the value in the people we care for the most. But why is this? Why is it that we as humans always seem to take for granted the people that we love the most? Who are the first people that come to mind and why do we take them for granted? Is it because we get busy with the hustle and bustle of life? Is it because we think they’ll always be there? And you know the sad part about it all? A couple of days after we see the tragic news we’re back at square one again.
Here are some ways to ALWAYS be thankful for the ones around you and not take them for granted:
Keep a journal
It seems to me that written words hold so much more power. Maybe it’s because we have to use our thoughts and energy to write them down. It can be as simple as thinking of two or three things that you are thankful for that day and writing it in a journal before bed. Reflecting on the day’s events will make us stop to really be mindful of what happened that day and to find the good. You can also show gratitude to your spouse or family member by writing 3 things they did that day that you appreciated or that you’re thankful for.
Remember that they won’t always be there
I always talk about working on not taking our spouses for granted and everything they do, especially the little everyday things. I think we forget as humans how fragile life is and even our relationships. Relationships and marriages end many times because someone doesn’t feel valued, loved, or betrayed by actions of the other person.
Why does it seem that we hurt the people we are supposed to love the most?
Is it because we get used to them being by our side? Or maybe because we think they won’t leave? Is it because we know what buttons to push to make them crumble to the ground? Or maybe our everyday life gets stagnant and we are looking for something new and exciting? Whatever we’re feeling we need to focus more on what they do right and not what they do wrong. We should also realize that we have a hand in each relationship that we are in, so if something is not working in a relationship try your hardest to make the changes in you first before pointing the finger at someone else.
Schedule time together
Sometimes the best way to show the people we love how much they mean to us is to spend TIME with them. Read that extra story with your kiddo tonight, surprise your spouse at lunch time and take them out to eat, or schedule a coffee date with your best friend or mom. People really feel most appreciated when you set out time out of your busy schedule for them with no distractions.
Let’s not take the people we care for the most for granted. Let’s show them how much we value them and the relationship we share enough to take actionable steps to change our mindset.