On last week’s post, I talked about the most common questions and/or comments that we hear as twin parents. Today’s post I want to talk about the MOST common question we just get from having 4 kids so close in age.
“How do you do you do it all?!”
This question we get all the time and understandably so. When I was on the other side and I would eye a family of 3 or more I always wondered how they made it work.
Normally I say “I don’t really have a choice” or “you have to do what you have to do.” But thinking about it now I feel like there are three answers to this question.
I remember one year for Lent before I was even married I decided instead of giving something up I would pray for God to strengthen me where I felt weakest. Do you want to guess what I prayed for that entire Lenten season? Patience. Boy, does God have a sense of humor when answering prayers!
I am by no means any way shape or form of being perfect. I’m just a wife and mother trying my best to navigate this crazy life I have. I fall many times…a lot actually. But now as I get older, I feel like I’m more aware of what I need to work on to become the best person I can be. That’s it’s ok to fall, as long as we get back up and to continuously work on ourselves.
Going From A Family Of 2 to 3
Trust me I was there when Elise was our only child. Like I stated in the post here. I struggled after Elise was born. It was tough. And to even fathom having another child was absolutely inconceivable.
Going From A Family Of 3 to 4
But 10 short months later there we were pregnant with our second child. Now, two kids! The perfect number for a family! Especially us! One beautiful little girl and a precocious little brother.
Since Elise and Luke are 19 months apart I can say without a doubt, we had our hands full!
Going From A Family of 4 to
But…you guessed it! Ten short months later here we were pregnant with our third child…or so we thought!
Coming to grips that you will be officially “outnumbered” by kids is a tough thing to wrap your mind around. Especially if you feel like your plate is already full.
But lo and behold we were pregnant with twins!
Being More Laid Back
When I was pregnant with the twins my sister would ask. “What are you going to do when the twins get here?” I would reply, “I don’t really think about it. I don’t know what it’s going to be like, so I don’t want to stress about it. When they get here I’ll know.”
I’m much more laid back since having the kids. It’s like my mind said… “oh no, can’t worry about the small stuff anymore we have two more kids coming.” I don’t really sweat the small stuff anymore because if I did I would probably be in a mental institution.
The final and most important answer. My husband is literally the best. I cannot and would not be able to do any of this alone. He’s always hands-on on with the kids. He does the dishes every single night while I bathe the kids. He helps to keep the house looking presentable. He does all the yard work as well. When I’m at my max he knows what to say or do to help me. He is so supportive in everything I do and what I want to achieve. Our marriage and this family would not function without us being a team.