With Valentine’s Day coming up this is a great reminder to focus on our marriages. Motherhood is absolutely and utterly the best yet hardest time, especially when you have young kiddos like myself. You have your little ones depending on you to care for them and it can get pretty exhausting. Like I said in my anniversary post here when you have kids and get busy with other things it’s so easy for your marriage to go on the back burner. Sometimes I’m going 100 miles an hour and then I realize that Dustin and I have barely even spent any time together or even talked! It’s so easy to get in that focused mindset with everything else that’s going on.
I always say if you want to change something you have to start with yourself. That is why I’m making a decision to purposefully pursue my husband. They say great marriages don’t just happen overnight. And you know what? I want a great marriage. I want to do everything in my power to make sure Dustin and I grow together.
Pray for my husband
Dustin is an absolutely amazing man and I need to make sure I thank God for every day that he is in my life. I also want to pray for him, his heart, and soul. I looked at different prayers and pulled my favorite sections of different ones. I will write this prayer on a note card and leave it on my nightstand to make sure I pray it every night.
“Dear Heavenly Father,
I lift up my husband before you today asking that you bless him. I pray that you build him up and transform him into the man you desire him to be. Give him the strength to lead our family, as Christ led the church with love and humility. Cover him with courageousness, confidence, and favor. May everything he do today glorify You. Amen.
Not taking him for granted
You know how when you’ve been with someone for so long and they do something consistently like cut the grass, take the trash out, help bathe the kids, pick up milk from the grocery store etc. Sometimes we kind of get so used to the routine that we forget to be thankful for everything they do every day for us and our family. I’m going to be more intentional in making sure I thank my hubby for everything he does for our family.
Asking him an important question every day
When I read Darren Hardy’s book he had a great example of a guy that asked his wife every day, “What can I do to make your day better?” This is such a great idea that I will implement every day. I need Dustin to know I truly value him and his happiness.
Since the beginning of the year, Dustin and I have talked about setting time aside for just the two of us. Because it’s so hard to go an actual date, because of the kids. We’ve been going on a lunch date at least once a week. It’s been tough to schedule some weeks, but when you make something a priority you figure it out and we’ve not missed one yet!
Since the kids are getting older I want to make it a point for us to spend time away for a weekend, just us, at least once a quarter. We already did this last month and it was nice to spend some time together without the kiddos, to recharge for a couple of days, and to spend some quality time together.
I’m so excited to begin this today! Our lives go through different seasons. I can tell you the last year and a half I’ve been on autopilot or survival mode. While I’m sure Dustin has probably either felt the same way or understood the season of life that we were in when we were having all these babies, I cannot take the chance that he will always “just know.” So, yes I’m going to pursue my husband. I’m going to be more intentional with my marriage and give it everything I have. I’m going to pour myself into it, because if I don’t fight for my marriage then who will?
What about you? Are you ready to pursue your husband? If so, what ideas might work for you and/or share other ways that can help us pursue our husbands?